An Encouraging Word
An Encouraging Word
We're so grateful the social worker who did our home study turned out to be a fellow Christian! God used her to be quite an encouragement to us. During our interview she asked us about how long we'd known we wanted to adopt and also asked things that drew us to each other in our relationship. I (Elizabeth) told her how I had known that adoption was very likely going to be a part of my future, not only because I had grown up wanting to adopt, but because my heart health was questionable at the time and my medication would be poisonous for a growing fetus. I remember thinking "where on earth am I going to find a man who isn't scared of my literal heart and who is open to the idea of adoption?" I was sitting across from Mike eating delicious Mexican food on our second date as he was telling me how he's on the board of Forever Adoption an organization that provides wrap-around support for adoptive families. I remember being blown away that I was meeting a bachelor who cared about adoption enough to serve on the board of an adoption organization. I tried to hide my excitement and casually ask him if he'd consider adoption in the future. He thought for a moment and said something like "I guess I've always thought I would adopt but I thought I'd have biological children too." I tried hard to hide my excitement.
As I was telling our social worker this story. She said "Just as God prepared each of you for the possibility of adoption and just as He prepared you for each other and so clearly put you two together, He already has a child in mind specifically for you. He knows who your family will be in 1, 3, 5 and 10 years. Just remember that when you are starting to get discouraged by all of the 'no's from birth mom's."
We do feel like God knew who we each needed and placed us together. In the same way, He also knows what baby and possibly birth family are the right future fit for us. I hope we can remember that our baby will be worth the wait and worth the possibility of the "no’s" between now and then.
